Comments on: How to say no politely or in different ways!! http://www.self-esteem-tips.com/assertiveness/how-to-say-no-politely-or-in-different-ways/ Free Self Esteem Tips and Worksheets for Building Self Esteem and worth Tue, 10 Jan 2012 22:48:58 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: hirabd http://www.self-esteem-tips.com/assertiveness/how-to-say-no-politely-or-in-different-ways/comment-page-1/#comment-18427 hirabd Tue, 14 Dec 2010 12:08:01 +0000 http://www.self-esteem-tips.com/?p=1450#comment-18427 thank you joe for liking this article. thank you joe for liking this article.

]]> By: hirabd http://www.self-esteem-tips.com/assertiveness/how-to-say-no-politely-or-in-different-ways/comment-page-1/#comment-18426 hirabd Tue, 14 Dec 2010 11:03:06 +0000 http://www.self-esteem-tips.com/?p=1450#comment-18426 @ Nabi, thank you for the comment. you raised a good question. you wanted to know, why do i suggest not to apologize when saying no? we already know its harder to say 'no' to a close friends than others. we apologize to our friends as we think, its rude . unkind, uncaring or selfish. it will hurt and upset our friends and make them feel rejected. maybe we can think, my friend may not like me anymore. but reality is opposite, my friends have the right to ask and I have the right to refuse. When I say “no” I am refusing a request, not rejecting a person. when we express our feelings openly and honestly, it actually liberates the other person to express their feelings. By saying “no” to our friends allows them to say “no” to our requests while still being able to ask for further requests. please see the above video also to get some ideas, what can we tell to our friends without hurting their feelings. thank you keep in touch shahriyar, admin @ Nabi, thank you for the comment. you raised a good question.

you wanted to know, why do i suggest not to apologize when saying no?

we already know its harder to say ‘no’ to a close friends than others.

we apologize to our friends as we think, its rude . unkind, uncaring or selfish. it will hurt and upset our friends and make them feel rejected. maybe we can think, my friend may not like me anymore.

but reality is opposite,

my friends have the right to ask and I have the right to refuse. When I say “no” I am refusing a request, not rejecting a person.

when we express our feelings openly and honestly, it actually liberates the other person to express their feelings. By saying “no” to our friends allows them to say “no” to our requests while still being able to ask for further requests.

please see the above video also to get some ideas, what can we tell to our friends without hurting their feelings.

thank you

keep in touch
shahriyar, admin

]]> By: joe http://www.self-esteem-tips.com/assertiveness/how-to-say-no-politely-or-in-different-ways/comment-page-1/#comment-18149 joe Fri, 10 Dec 2010 20:09:16 +0000 http://www.self-esteem-tips.com/?p=1450#comment-18149 Great article i love it. Really an eye opener. never knew there were so many ways to say no politely :) Great article i love it. Really an eye opener. never knew there were so many ways to say no politely :)

]]> By: Nabi http://www.self-esteem-tips.com/assertiveness/how-to-say-no-politely-or-in-different-ways/comment-page-1/#comment-17389 Nabi Wed, 01 Dec 2010 15:39:06 +0000 http://www.self-esteem-tips.com/?p=1450#comment-17389 Thank you Hirabd for the tips on saying no. they are very helpful to me. But just a question: why do you suggest not to apologize when saying no? because I think when we apologize it's more polite and friendly. it implies that I apologize for possibly hurting your feelings or rejecting you. For example which one do you think sounds better: Sorry, but I can't lend you my car. I find it difficult to lend you my car. Thank you Hirabd for the tips on saying no. they are very helpful to me.
But just a question: why do you suggest not to apologize when saying no? because I think when we apologize it’s more polite and friendly. it implies that I apologize for possibly hurting your feelings or rejecting you. For example which one do you think sounds better:

Sorry, but I can’t lend you my car.

I find it difficult to lend you my car.

]]> By: hirabd http://www.self-esteem-tips.com/assertiveness/how-to-say-no-politely-or-in-different-ways/comment-page-1/#comment-6244 hirabd Tue, 06 Apr 2010 23:03:59 +0000 http://www.self-esteem-tips.com/?p=1450#comment-6244 @Jazz sometime i also face this 'saying no' problems. :) but its worth saying no than suffer afterward for saying yes or accepting the unwanted proposal... though, the youtube video in this post is very old ... this video has ..more helpful tips for young people about saying-no in different social situations .. however tips are appropriate for all ages too.. i think @Jazz sometime i also face this ‘saying no’ problems. :) but its worth saying no than suffer afterward for saying yes or accepting the unwanted proposal…

though, the youtube video in this post is very old …
this video has ..more helpful tips for young people about saying-no in different social situations .. however tips are appropriate for all ages too.. i think

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